Explanation of the Modules:
Module 1 Lets flirt and come together
This first module will focus on getting to know each other profoundly, our expectations and needs. We’ll explore the art of flirting as a tool that can either be used to kindle the flames of a new relationship or keep the flame alive in an existing one. We will explore intimacy, vulnerability and rejection as they are essential to making our dreams come true. We will play, act, laugh, touch and be touched by one another.
As desires are created inside our heads, yet conditioned by the society in which we live, we begin by looking at our personal desires, versus the expectations we place upon ourselves.
Module 2 Fly me to the Honey-Moon
In this module we explore early stages of partnership: falling in love and getting to know each other. We will learn new techniques to improve and get the most out of this fiery stage where everything is possible and our hearts are open both sexually and emotionally.
We will look at the risks that we may face at this stage, when we start to wake up. Some of us just run away immediately, while others want to put all their energy into instantly solving any problems. What should we do? What’s for the best? How can we overcome personal life traps and long term patterns? How can we survive this first stage? We will explore the established patterns and traps that hold us back from open, honest communication.
By learning new methods of sensual touch and intimacy, we can build up confidence to explore and broaden the range of sexual scenarios that we may enjoy.
This module will also help long-term partners revive feelings of enjoyment in their relationships, stepping out of old patterns of behaviour.
Module 3 Landing on Earth
In this module we will focus on ourselves and ongoing personal growth which is essential to any relationship.
The module will be divided into two parts: the first dealing with what keeps us from being what we want to be. The second on how we would like to see and be seen in the years to come. Now it is time for change and rebirth. We will use the power created by the group to make things happen.
What would we like to work on in the coming year, what things keep you away from a fruitful, happy relationship? What is the thing that most gets in our way? Lets get it out of the way and celebrate our differences. Each member of the group will be given a piece of fabric and a needle and thread. Good luck!
We’ll use the group as a safe place where we can explore issues like guilt and shame, rejection and loneliness, addiction and boundaries.
We finish our first year of training by celebrating a new beginning. Using rituals and art to raise a toast for the year ahead and for the universe to fulfill our heartfelt wishes and desires.
Module 4 Fighting for Peace
This module will focus on the art of communication in relationship. We will explore various issues, desire, jealousy, power, money, fear of loss, family, society and the gay community. We will look at challenges raised, and our own personal responses to them. Conflict resolution will encourage us to look at conflict as an opportunity to grow, rather than as a problem to be solved as quickly as possible.
This module will consider the range of ways in which we communicate: making love, staying quiet, fighting, watching television and holding hands are all ways to communicate.
We will make a journey to and from our hearts.
Module 5 Travelling on the One Way Road
In this module we focus on the phase when the relationship is secure. Even if we are not partnered, we still have routines: relationships and episodes that we become accustomed to. Right now, when we feel most comfortable enjoying the stability, troubles can arise. Is it time to focus on other things? Are we taking a situation for granted? What do we have to do to not get stuck in a boring, monotonous relationship? Is the model of being in a couple right for us? Is there another option?
We will acquaint ourselves with fabulous new possibilities to sustain us on the journey to fulfill our desires.
Module 6 Transformations in The Garden of Love
During the two year program, we challenged the things that keep us away from what we want to achieve, we shared skills of conflict resolution and self growth. We explored our sexual desires and at the same time bonded and connected with each other.
This is the time to look around to see the people surrounding us in the group. Inviting those that are close by to reflect together, cry and raise a toast for the future. Maybe we’ll explore death rituals in ancient cultures? Maybe we’ll run riot in a wild naked party? We will allow ourselves to be angry, frustrated and sad. We’ll also allow ourselves to celebrate, to congratulate ourselves for doing the right thing and look forward, with open hearts to the future.
What happened to us? Where do we go from here? This will be a time for each of us to revise the elements that are still missing in our relationship tool box. We will evaluate and celebrate our time together.
Module 1: 17.-21.05.2012 (Berlin)
Peergroup 1: 15.-17.06.2012 (Your Area)
Module 2: 12.-18.08.2012 Southern Europe
Peergroup 2: 26.-28.10.2012 (Your Area)
Module 3: 27.12.2012 - 01.01.2013 (Berlin)
Peergroup 3: 08.-10.03.2013 (Your Area)
Module 4: 01.-05.05.2013 Berlin)
Peergroup 4: 15.-17.06. (Your Area)
Module 5: 30.08. 04.09.2013 (Southern Europe)
Peergroup 5: 11.-13.10.2013 (Your Area)
Module 6: 31.12.2013-04.01.2014 (Berlin)
The modules will be adapted to the group’s characteristics and needs. This means that we have a detailed plan of events, but at times this will need to be changed, according to the specific requirements of the group.
Our House Rules: We provide a safe space. This means that we establish a set of ground rules which must be observed during the training e.g. safe sex rules, hygiene, rules on confidentiality and, of course, respect at all times for the other participants. These rules will be written and published and will be observed for the entire duration of the course.
Materials: We will provide materials, such as theoretical texts (on relationships, sex, learning skills), stories and films, which will enable you to learn in the comfort of your own home. Such information will be available on a server, however, for those that are not comfident with computers, we can provide most of the information on hard copy. We encourage students to create a good work space at home so that they can look at handouts and other materials with ease.
Homework & Integrating your skills at home.
We endeavour to work as efficiently as possible. This means that we sometimes require you to prepare for a module in advance in some way or other, or by sending information to us. For example, as preparation for the first module, we require certain essential information relating to your personal and family history. This information is held in the strictest confidence, but it is helpful for us to be able to better support you in your process.
Between the six modules
To deepen the process between the modules and to bring the learned experiences back into your everyday life, there will be three support structures:
1. Peer groups
Between each module there will be at least five peer-group meetings. That means that you have the possibility to choose your own peer-group, relating to your own needs (place/home town, language, background etc.) You will organise this meeting with other fellows from the peer group at your or their home or space. From us you will get a structure to follow, and topics for each peer group-Meeting. After the meeting you will be invited to feedback to us, so that we know how you are getting on.
Each month you will get a new buddy from the training group. Your task is to have a weekly check-in with your buddy ; on the phone, on Skype, in person, or in whatever way that is possible. You are invited to share whats going on, and support each other. There will be a structure from us to make it easy and effective.
3. Individual Support from the Trainers
According to your personal needs, you will receive assignments from us, and you will have the chance contact us between modules in order for us to be able to support your needs and reflect together if there is need for it.
Role of Empowerment
The course in part involves learning theory and background, and part self-discovery in which we find and utilise tools coming from our own experiences and consciousness. These new-found skills will be used to assist our experiences during the process of the course.
The course will enable a deepening of self experience; this will allow us to see the stumbling blocks in our way, and then remove them during the process of our development. As ‘the way’ is our target, even if these stumbling blocks cannot be removed, we will still learn by finding ways to live with them contentedly.
Empowerment will be used as a tool for growth, encouraging us to integrate trust in the various aspects of our lives, and to feel an abundance of love available to each and every one of us.