The Art of Relating
All intimacy is rare -- that's what makes it precious. And it involves the revelation of one's self and the loving gaze upon another's true self (no makeup, no fancy car, no defensive charm, no seduction) -- that's what makes it so damn hard. Intimacy requires honesty and kindness in almost equal measure (a little more kindness, I think), trust and trustworthiness, forgiveness and the capacity to be forgiven . . . It's more than worth it...just don’t let them tell you it’s bliss “
—Amy Bloom
Regarding matters of relating
A love relationship is something that almost everyone wishes to have for themselves. There are many advantages to being in a couple. For example, having somebody that understands you, that you can truly trust. Sharing your life with someone, supporting one another and solving life’s problems together. Someone to enjoy physical intimacy and sex with. Someone to bring to family events. Someone who you can share both special events with as well as day to day moments. Someone who provides you with an opportunity to build a family.
In our search we may find ourselves asking questions such as:
- If I don’t have a relationship, does it mean there is something wrong with me?
- What is missing in my existing relationship?
- Does a relationship satisfy my needs?
- How can I have my needs met?
- What is the connection between love, partnership, sex and relationship? Do they only exist together?
We will jump into this two year program with our eyes wide open, ready for change, ready to challenge ourselves through playful, thoughtful and sensual experiences.
Happy Gay Relationships?
Nowadays, we are regularly assaulted by pictures of smiling gay couples in advertising; in coffee-table books or for cabriolet cars. But within the usual models of society there is not so much space for happy gay relationships to exist. Gay and bisexual men tend to try to copy and paste from idealised images and whatever else they have experienced in their families or previous relationships.
Unfortunately, this is not an easy Saturday afternoon shopping trip, because what we really want and need is not for sale.
We crave a stable relationship of mutual respect and fulfilment. What keeps us away from this desire?
Common questions that arise are:
- Why can’t I find a partner?
- Why do my relationships end so fast?
- How do we manage to have a long-term relationship without it becoming banal?
- How do I stop myself from falling back into old traps?
- How do we live with trust, not jealousy?
- How do we enjoy an active sex life two or three years into a relationship?
- How do we define our relationship space without neglecting space for the individual?
- How do we manage to join together in a loving, nourishing way?
- Are happy Gay relationships hard to achieve because of a lack of role models, or because the gay scene is over-sexualized?
You can achieve a happy, long-lasting, fulfilling relationship. You can learn how to do it.
Learn to love: The Art of Relating-Training
To enjoy a long and happy relationship, each couple has to be willing to co-create a unique structure that satisfies both the needs of each individual, while also tending to the needs of the relationship.
The Gay Love Spirit Training ,“The Art of Relating” will support you on this path. In a team of like-minded men, we will learn how to grow with a partner in the field of Love. The training is open to couples and singles alike, mainly focusing on individual process, embracing multiple methods from Couples Therapy, Bodywork, Tantra, Sex Coaching, Systemic Therapy, Spiritual techniques and Group work.
In the six different modules we take a slow and profound approach to exploring the different stages of relationship. On a spiritual level we experience other dimensions of reality. For this purpose we will employ a range of rituals, created spaces and activities as and when we think that this will best support your process.
During the training period of 20 months, you will receive
- A lot of positive experiences: flirting, dating, sexing, relating, listening to yourself, expressing yourself and listening to the others
- A big set of tools – to analyse situations, to understand whats going on, to give and receive support, to reflect, to be able to look for solutions in conflict.
- A profound theoretical background, so that your mind and ideas will be supported in your relationships and won’t make you mad.
- A spiritual practice that supports your acceptance of yourself, to become at ease with who you are, your needs, your wishes and that which connects you to the source of love.
The objective of the training is to give you tools and experiences to use in life to help sustain long-lasting, happy relationships.
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